Do we know what we are?

                     

               " In the social jungle of human existence, there is no feeling of being alive without a sense of identity." 

                                     

Identity , something that sets us apart from others is our identity. Something that we are in search of all our lives.Something that only a few are able to find without having a tough row to hoe. But then it distinguishes us from others and when we fail at it we have an identity crisis. Identity crisis is something that is often linked with adolescence though it's effects linger till the later teens and also the twenties. 'Who am I?' is one question that we all have asked ourselves at some point or the other. Societal norms have specific pre-set ways to be and behave that is considered normal and anyone not abiding by it is subjected to constant ridicule and scrutiny and thus we fall further into the quicksand that is Identity crisis.

       We have different kinds of it as we grow not just physically but mentally as well. To start with, there are various situations one encounters in his/her life and of course the people that come with it. 

There is no avoiding them.The more people you meet the more are the chances that they are going to make you question yourself. And you all know what people are capable of. It's not as pretty as they paint the picture to be. People always say why let what others think of you bother you. Ignore it for your own good 

Knowingly or unknowingly it effects us and then we try justifying ourselves not just to the world but deep down to ourselves , not finding a way out , shutting yourself down, building walls all around. It's not going to get you anywhere. You are just going to lose yourself in the process. Not knowing who you are anymore can be pretty devastating but you need to learn to get over it. It's not easy but then again it's not impossible either because with time everything passes even the deadliest storms.

     " No death, no doom, no anguish can arouse the surpassing despair which flows from a loss of identity"

The people are like predators waiting to prey on your weakness the moment they spot one. One of the biggest weakness a person can have is the inability to say 'NO' loud and clear. Something I too was incapable of saying all my life even if it made me uncomfortable. Not being able to say no can be because of a lot of reasons one of them being the uncontrollable need to please people and amidst of all that we lose the sense of who we are . So desperately trying to make our place in the world we often give in and end up being what is said about us rather than being what we are.

Something of that sort happened with me a couple of years back, thanks to my incapability of saying no I went through something I called a 'Rock Bottom' then and I couldn't find a way out and started becoming more and more what was said about me and it completely wrecked me. All I could do was scream into a pillow and cry. For me not reacting was just not possible. Those who can maintain their calm in such situations. Cheers. I can only imagine the storm you are building with in. So the only rational thing I could think of is to hear one good thing about me, it could be anything ,literally, and I asked one person ( the right person) to say something about me, her opinion about me . ( It was good btw)

So these people have this boy/girl next door exterior while getting their way with you (or at least trying to ) and you just end up being the girl who cried wolf. No matter how much you try the other person comes out as the good guy and you the bad one, wrong one and it's almost impossible to show their real side to people except your close ones (and at times not even that) . Good that it's the era of screenshots. You end up having some kind of proof. Nevertheless they are going to meet their fate sooner or later because karma bitch! It's so convenient to play the blame game.

"She was throwing herself at me. What could I do? I'm a guy after all."

Well you could keep it in your pants.

"You were drunk and asked for it"

Well you could have said NO.

People  ,something no one's ever going to get tired discussing. As long as there are people there are going to be people who are discussing about them , whether they are a saint or a sinner no one escapes the radar. Not that people want to either . Who doesn't love the limelight ?

And your only hope is not being in it for long and if you like it then enjoy your day of sunshine.

The mind is its own place and in itself it can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven. The choice is yours how you want it to be and your mind is your puppet you can play tricks on it just the way it does on you. With it in your control along with your heart you can conquer the world and finding yourself ( and your identity) in it is a battle that just cannot go wrong. Well everyone's fighting a battle and there's more to a person than what meets the eye.